Dowry really gives big impact to a wedding, not particularly to Indian only, but I believe to Malay and Chinese as well. As for me, dowry is something that culturally bound and just to impress others by how big the dowry is. It is no longer serves the purpose of "present" nowadays, people are eager to put higher dowry than others maybe for the seek of showing off but subtly cover it up with giving excuse that the expenses for the wedding are expensive. I remembered someone said to his friend when asked about the dowry of his daughter: "I'm not selling my daughter, why would I put very high dowry?". But, unfortunately there are some parents who put their daughter for "sale" by putting very high dowry and that will burden the guy who will have to struggle to collect the money not only for the dowry but also for other expenses. But it really depends on the person, if they could afford for high dowry they should go for it and for those who couldn't they have to find alternatives to satisfy both parties. Some said dowry is the symbol of love...ask yourself then!
What he said is true. People nowadays sometimes use the dowry just to show off to others that they are rich. But not all people is like that. There are people who makes dowry to show their sincere towards their partner.
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